Erotic Genre: How real can/should you be?

Sex with a ghost isn’t very real – unless you truly believe.

Sex with a werewolf? Vampire? Okay, way stranger images are coming to mind now.

I’m thinking the nitty-gritty. Basic human beings. How real should the sex be?

Protection?

Lube?

Noises?

Duration?

Smells?

Is the erotic audience ready for the turn-on, fantasy, reality, escape, wishful thinking and/or do they want it down and real?

How is real – sexy? Is the mundane ever sexy? Do we secretly want our erotic read to be relatable as we pretend to friends it’s really fantasy we’re after?

Does this mean we can feel rejected by a book’s hot lover just because we think we’re inadequate? Do beautifully perfect people scare us – maybe they want us?

The truth is, as it is for all writing, be real to the story you’re telling, nothing less or nothing much more is ever needed. 

General: Thoughts on short story writing

They’re over before you have a chance to get bored with the writing. Or, bored with the reading.

Problem – they’re over before you want them to be. Or, need them to be.

I find short stories easier to write. It’s due to my natural urge to rush through the ending. Why I become bored I don’t understand. I feel the need to write and have a vivid imagination, but I always hit a point in which I find myself rushing. Maybe I need to plan more.

This is why short stories, so far, appear to work for me. I try to give as much as I can and still maintain the requirements of short writing.

Shorts allow for more formula writing. More point-form aspects of what is needed and mindful of the word count. Not as much fullness or spreading out of points.

But, it would be great to be able to write longer sections to a full novel – get to spend more time with these mind-friends of mine.

Visiting Bonnie and Boris: Introducing the Children

Why write erotic and have the characters have children? Isn’t bringing in children counterproductive to a sex-filled story – an eww factor?

In my youth there was a talk/variety show that once had a relationship expert on. The show actually put up a warning and had the teen guest leave the set – ahh the 70s. Anyhoo, this expert said something that has stuck with me – we are free and easy before marriage because we really have no role model on how to date. How to romance during this time.

But, once we are married we end up following our parental role models. If we don’t witness them acting romantic or loving – not sexual – we start behaving as if this non-behaviour is normal and expected. Hence the belief marriage kills romance; kills the sex.

Which is one reason I wanted my couple to be the normal family. A couple making time for each other and being interrupted by the kids. Having to juggle the embarrassing moments those of us with kids have probably all experienced.

There’s also the idea of these children growing and finding their parents have had an interesting sex/love life. That the people around them have meant so much more. Seeing our parents as human is always one of the breakthroughs which startle us the most.

Too much for short sexy stories? Maybe, but this is what makes writing fun – exploring human nature.