Visiting Bonnie and Boris: Introducing the Children

Why write erotic and have the characters have children? Isn’t bringing in children counterproductive to a sex-filled story – an eww factor?

In my youth there was a talk/variety show that once had a relationship expert on. The show actually put up a warning and had the teen guest leave the set – ahh the 70s. Anyhoo, this expert said something that has stuck with me – we are free and easy before marriage because we really have no role model on how to date. How to romance during this time.

But, once we are married we end up following our parental role models. If we don’t witness them acting romantic or loving – not sexual – we start behaving as if this non-behaviour is normal and expected. Hence the belief marriage kills romance; kills the sex.

Which is one reason I wanted my couple to be the normal family. A couple making time for each other and being interrupted by the kids. Having to juggle the embarrassing moments those of us with kids have probably all experienced.

There’s also the idea of these children growing and finding their parents have had an interesting sex/love life. That the people around them have meant so much more. Seeing our parents as human is always one of the breakthroughs which startle us the most.

Too much for short sexy stories? Maybe, but this is what makes writing fun – exploring human nature.

Visiting Bonnie and Boris: RE-introducing Boris

Who is Boris and why is he so free and open with his wife?

Too good to be true?

Or

Egomaniac?

I wanted Boris to be more of a secondary character. Someone sitting quietly in the background enjoying the show. I really didn’t want to deal with him as a main focal. As an equal to Bonnie’s character – the lead, the story POV.

Then, Lea, my publisher said something about there would need to be some conflict, eventually. Something between Bonnie and Boris…jealously, something they would have to acknowledge, deal with as a couple.

No.

I became the author who argued.

Argued that, no, my characters do not have that problem. They are the couple who know their hearts and minds. Who trust and love each other.

If you listen to the world beyond your comfort zone…the one that makes adults giggle with titillation. Then you have to acknowledge some people like _____ and ______ or ______. That they are comfortable and accept these different lifestyles no matter what anyone thinks.

Lo and behold Boris was born. He became the male lead. The protector. The supporter. The lover who cherishes his wife and isn’t afraid to follow her desires. Not afraid to show his own.

Together they explore the world few of us – sorry for the assumption – dare. Together they are the love story of our hearts. The trust and belief we have in our own lover(s).

Visiting Bonnie and Boris: Introducing Peter

It’s probably a cop-out saying I don’t know who Peter is, but I don’t. He came into the story simply as a serving platter. He was going to be Patrice’s side dish – a toss-away. Then her docile husband.

Now?

I’m not too sure.

He’s beginning to stand up and letting himself be known. He’s becoming Boris’ friend, business-friend. Dare I say…buddy? He’s sounding quiet, steady, confident, someone in total control. I don’t believe he’s arrogant or has an inflated ego, but there’s some power within in him. He’s not a controller or Master, but the term protector doesn’t fit either. That one is more who Boris is, a protector.

Peter is…isn’t remaining a serving platter.

He’s become interesting.

Visiting Bonnie and Boris: Introducing Mistress Patrice

I never intended to keep Patrice, she was supposed to be a one story element. Someone to titillate the reader and Bonnie. Patrice was supposed to give a peek into what is considered a darker aspect of human sexuality. Peek, not a full on trip and dissection of something that deserves more respect than it is given. Patrice was also added for the peek, voyeurism nature which makes us all take that second…third…look.

I’m now seeing Patrice as the flip side to Cassie – two sides of the same coin. Women who are free of worry in order to explore their sexuality.

Too deep for erotica?

Sure, some will say yes or maybe, but I’ll disagree. What I’m finding is it’s this depth to human nature that intrigues me to write the erotic genre. Which also means searching out those authors who take care in researching their storylines.

This is also what I see as the difference between our genre and porn. Erotic stories need characters who are connected. Stories with more than just sex.

Patrice is a woman who needs control. Why? Why did she become a therapist and change to a sexually based therapy? Is there something in her background – something I don’t even know yet – which drives her?

What is her relationship with husband Peter? My feel of this relationship, and I hope it comes across, is she is the alpha.

One thing I do know about humans is sometimes the strongest person doesn’t need to be the one in control – the lead. A confident alpha can follow when required.

I know I’m the writer, but all this makes me even more interested in who these two are and where they’ll take me.

Visiting Bonnie and Boris: Introducing Cassie

I realized after Cassie took over the blog last month that this introduction may seem backwards. Maybe it should be introductions then allow the characters to take over and speak for themselves; however, that would be too normal and boring. By choosing to let them speak first you might just be curious enough to want to know how they came to be.

Then again, there will be different visits to Bonnie and Boris.

Cassie came about because I needed another female for the erotic aspects of the story. Plain and simple, but I also wanted someone who Bonnie and Boris would have complete trust in. Someone who was independent, life-loving, adventurous, and a bit of a minx…sexy and sensual. The fun about writing Cassie is I didn’t know any of this until she started talking in the first book “Gift Giving.” In that first scene she was a giggling sexy bombshell who was there for the tease. A fun secondary character who I didn’t expect to visit again.

That’s the beauty of writing, characters can take over when they know…some deep part of the writer’s imagination or muse knows…they’re more than first written. Cassie has become a repeat visitor and someone who I’m pretty sure will end up in her own set of stories.

Cassie is building to be a character who gives loyalty and trust based on her gut reaction, but do not cross her. Do not cross her friends.

Did I know she had a brother? Nope. That came out of the blue. Her reason for living life in the moment without regrets? Maybe. This is why I know we’ll be visiting with Cassie again, she’s more than her smile…and Double Ds…much more.

Visiting Bonnie and Boris: Introducing Boris

Who is Boris and why is he so free and open with his wife?

Too good to be true?

Or

Egomaniac?

I wanted Boris to be more of a secondary character. Someone sitting quietly in the background enjoying the show. I really didn’t want to deal with him as a main focal. As an equal to Bonnie’s character – the lead, the story POV.

Then, Lea, my publisher said something about there would need to be some conflict, eventually. Something between Bonnie and Boris…jealously, something they would have to acknowledge, deal with as a couple.

No.

I became the author who argued.

Argued that, no, my characters do not have that problem. They are the couple who know their hearts and minds. Who trust and love each other.

If you listen to the world beyond your comfort zone…the one that makes adults giggle with titillation. Then you have to acknowledge some people like _____ and ______ or ______. That they are comfortable and accept these different lifestyles no matter what anyone thinks.

Lo and behold Boris was born. He became the male lead. The protector. The supporter. The lover who cherishes his wife and isn’t afraid to follow her desires. Not afraid to show his own.

Together they explore the world few of us – sorry for the assumption – dare. Together they are the love story of our hearts. The trust and belief we have in our own lover(s).

Visiting Bonnie and Boris: Introducing Bonnie

The character Bonnie is an escape. She speaks what I hold back. Is confident where I’m not and daring where I wish I was…well, not in some areas. Her sexual freedom is complete fiction written for those who enjoy reading erotic/erotica.

I wanted my female lead to be someone in control, but not controlling as in overpowering. There’s little that will phase her or cause her to doubt herself or Boris. The insecurity and uncertainty which lives in us all was something I didn’t want in my erotic characters. They’re based on the general feel I’ve taken from watching documentaries on people who swing, share their wives/husbands. These stories are strong…I hope…in Bonnie’s sexual life which is separate from her day-to-day lives.

My plan for Bonnie is one where she will “play” with those she considers close and trustworthy friends. Beyond that she is not one to randomly have sex with someone simply because it will feel good. I’ve taken the stand with Bonnie and Boris that they’re sexually open, but have more personal rules than some who play a wider field. No, judgement is not being passed.

When creating characters a writer needs to know and set the boundaries, rules, beliefs for that character. It’s how we learn who we are writing and how they will interact with others in the story. How the story will make them behave, react. Even then they’ll take us in directions we don’t anticipate.

Bonnie’s a mother because I’m a mother. I know her feelings for her children because of my own. I wanted to share this aspect to my possible readers, let alone the fun of balancing being a sexual partner, being, with children and their surprises. I didn’t know how many children, daughters or sons, ages, this all came about as the stories were being written. So did the pets…both children and animals had no names, no descriptions for the first book and not much until writing the second.

For some strange reason Bonnie’s parents are deceased. I don’t know why, maybe I didn’t want to deal with writing about parents whose daughter is having wild sex?

I tried to find a name which didn’t match anyone I knew. One that didn’t belong to anyone I had an impression about. Well, it wasn’t until well after book one was written and near published that I realized I did know a person called, Bonnie. If you ever guess…or know who I am…my fictional Bonnie is completely that – fictional.

This is about it for introducing Bonnie. I’m sure there will be more to share as the stories develop and I get to know Bonnie. That’s the best part of creating a character, they grow and really do take on a life of their own.